kinkshame

• kink-shame, kink shame

From kink +‎ shame.

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kinkshame (third-person singular simple present kinkshames, present participle kinkshaming, simple past and past participle kinkshamed)

1. (ambitransitive) To mock, shame, bully, harass, condemn, or make fun of (someone) for or because of their sexual preferences or interests, and/or fetishes.
   • 2018 May 7, Rebecca Goldstein, “DDLG Ruins the Party Again”, in Binghamton Review, Binghamton Review, page 13:

     This abomination, which stands for "Daddy Dom Little Girl" is essentially pedophilia-lite and is super uncomfortable, abusive, and wildly problematic. Yes, I'm kinkshaming.

   • 2019, Ellie Cahill, Save the Secret Date, unnumbered page:

     "It's not a romantic relationship," he said. "But they are both really really into My Little Pony. In very dark ways."
     I burst into laughter again, letting out a snort. "Oh my god, I think I'm gonna be sick."
     "Don't kink-shame, Mary."

   • 2019, Annabel Gat, The Astrology of Love & Sex: A Modern Compatibility Guide, page 273:

     Let them know what your limits are early on if you're worried you might unknowingly kink-shame them, so they'll know, for example, not to let you in on their furry fantasy.

   • 2025 October 29, Amelia Eqbal, “What we learned about Lily Allen and David Harbour’s breakup, thanks to her new album West End Girl”, in CBC‎^[1]:

     Last year, [Lily] Allen made headlines for sharing on the podcast Miss Me? that she would sometimes go days without speaking to her husband. In a different episode of the podcast, she mused about whether she had incidentally kink-shamed [David] Harbour for turning down some of his bedroom requests in the past.

   • For more quotations using this term, see Citations:kinkshame.
2. (transitive) To mock, shame, or condemn (a sexual preference or fetish).
   • 2025 May 11, Monica Padrick, “Don Tyxote” (11:26 from the start), in Krapopolis‎^[2], season 2, episode 21, spoken by Shlub (Matt Berry):

     “Of all this world's perversities, there is only one I cannot abide: the kink-shame. I'm off!” “You can't walk out! I'm walking out!”

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